Marriage = busted. Help me bust my divorce too!!

[mamabird]

I woke up in the middle of the night last night and could not get back to sleep. I changed my mind about what I should say. I decided to make my response as kind and gentle as possible (a big 180 for me).

I told him that I felt horribly for him that his mother abandoned him and that he didn't deserve it. I said that it didn't justify my behavior and I was saying it out of genuine caring and compassion. I told him I would be there for him during his healing process and always. I told him I never would have abandoned him by walking away from our marriage.

He may not accept this now, or ever, but I've put it out there for him to chew on. I'm thinking that he'll be indignant and angry when he first reads it and may soften up after a few months. Or not. He may be insulted. It doesn't matter now. I've put it all out there and given him every chance to work on the marriage. He knows the door is open.

Now it's time for me to work on detaching... REALLY detaching... much harder than it seems!!!