Should I initiate R talk?

[Denver_2010]

""Really? what have you discovered? What are you doing to change them?" When she asks like that, my answer can hardly be taken as pursuing, right?"

Stop over-analyzing everything. Look, you're never going to be able to get an answer for everything she's going to or not going to ask. Just be yourself and be genuine.

But do it in a way that is not pursuing, pressuring or being a pushover! LOL!

Bond is right. Listen man, this stuff is hard. You're going to make mistakes. IMO, the best way to approach it is this:

1) Mainly just listen to your W and validate her feelings. The less that you say right now, the better.

2) At the same time, have a positive mental attitude and always act 'as if' you are happy and light. No one wants to be with someone who is depressed and in the dumps.

3) When you do engage your W in conversation, after you have listened and validated, try to be the one who ends the convo. Also try to be the one who ends the convo even when it is not R talk.

4) When asked a direct question, be truthful, genuine as Bond said... but be direct in the answer.

The thing that i think many of us get into trouble with is we start talking too much. We get into a lot of trouble when we are the ones doing the talking. JMO.

Denver