The army pays him to provide a home/food for his family. Even though we areliving apart he is still required to allocate my share to me. For a while he wasn't and as a result I ended up being evicted from my home.
When this happened he laughed at me and mocked me. His only reply was for me to let him know when to pick up his girls so they wouldn't be homeless too. He had his own apartment and was partying it up.
I grew a back bone and went to his command. They made him set up an allotment to my bank account. As a result he had to terminate his lease and move in with a friend. He's been living there 3 months now.
On top of that, he is getting out of the army in November. He doesn't have a job or anything beyond November figured out. So technically he will be jobless and unable to provide his own home for our girls.
That's a lot to weigh on someones mind. Pretty sure that's it.
Believing to know his problem doesn't help to solve it though. It is his choice to continue living this way and I don't want to enable him. I have no anger towards the way he treated me during my eviction. He was so deep in his A and I understand it fogged his thinking back then.
I am glad that he hasn't come back just for the security, I can give him that much. Another issue for him could be the obstacles I have overcome and that I have continued to succeed, where he has been stagnant and dependent on others. Maybe he feels guilty about coming to me to help him after everything he has done? Just speculating.
A positive is that he DID come to me, and not ow (pretty sure she is gone though) or anyone else to watch our girls. I'm thinking that has to say something.
Regardless, I get 3 Weeks in a row with my girls next month, super score!
Me-31 H-24 D3,D2 M 4 yrs WAW(me) 12/2011 role reversal 03/2012 (H)PA 3-6/2012 (H)D filed 6/2012 D deemed "inactive", closed 8/2012 I've moved on 9/2012
