Robb, can you be more specific? Maybe start a new thread, so we don't hijack this one?
Starsky
I believe he's trying to point you in the direction of what your going to be up against.
I mean how can you tell someone they can't love who they love? They "feel" exactly how they "feel", however you may be able to have a third party be able to explain to them, that this is exactly how it feels. Also to discuss the impact of the damage they have caused and that affairs have a very low rate of success as primary relationships, that the affair can be "successful" as long as you are willing to stand in as a crutch, discounting the significant pain and loss of esteen it will make you feel.
