Hi Zig, maybe try thinking through to answer your own questions as if you were sg, and write that, and then when sg can make it back here there is more to react to and share feedback on.
You can learn from the vets by trying to think like them if you can.
Not as a vet but as a fellow db'er trying to learn how to work toward goals, I would suggest that your list is extensive. How about pick your top three or so, or the easiest ones to start, so you can build up your sense of accomplishment. Make them concrete and make them things actually within your control (try revising the one about H inviting you to his studio.)
I love your personal goals. Curious how you plan to have more positive interactions with your brother.
If you have a goal that's taking a while like the clutter in the garage or planning a trip, you might try breaking it into smaller ones like for example this week I plan to pick a date in the future to spend a x-hour block of time on the garage. Or, this week I'll list the top three things in the garage that make it look cluttered and deal with at least those three. Baby steps!
With H, it's good to have the goals written down and be thinking about them, even if you forget in the moment you're still building the skills. How do you think you could listen to H better?
How have you been doing on your goals so far? Celebrate what you achieve, and even celebrate that you wrote the goals down! You're doing great!
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
