A Huddle of Turtles

[zig]

Hi everyone - so many responses. what a wonderful contribution.

Thank-you.

if you don't mind i'll respond in one post.

greatwhite:
thank you so much for this. as i read it I realized that i need to give myself permission to do certain things like acknowledging that there was harm done by another person. It is okay for me to truly acknowledge that.

Forgiveness is not saying what happened doesn't matter.

it's okay for me to say it DOES matter. can i find this article on line? I hope so, i would like to read the whole thing. thank you, again - and i agree with you about the 4 stages - i need to deliberately go through each of them, for so many people - not just my h.


ces:
a reminder that those things most valuable are often those that require great effort to gain.

yes this requires effort, but i see the value now - and it is like a big fat shiny gem, tempting me to keep pursuing this course of action. i know now for the first time that the genuine act of forgiveness will give me inner peace about so much and that is the jewel to achieve.

I will not let the negative impact the opportunity for the positive any longer. that has happened way too much in my life, for way too long

thank-you ces - and i hope you are having a beautiful day today ....zig


rick
thanks for stopping by we don't see you around too much, so i am honored. you are definitely one of the first that pointed out i was a wonderful person. the constant suggestion of that from you, helped me to gain the first real steps of self-confidence.

i'm not forgetting to live life- just trying to learn how to live it right for me after a very long time.


labug -
I don't know where or who this is from but...
It's not the letting go that hurts, it's the holding on.
My view, I don't think we ever attain forgiveness, we work at it every day. At least that's been my experience.
And the more we let go of other people and outcomes, the easier it is.
Some days the path is easy, some days it isn't.
Fulfillment comes from staying on the path.


as always - wise wise words and always given when needed the most. i will try to stay on the path - always.



ng:

"forgiveness is giving up any hope for a better past"

that is what i really needed to hear. when i read that i realized how much i hoped for things to have been different - not just talking about just my marriage either. it is a profound thing to change within myself and i am ON IT!!

this , along with labugs " It's not the letting go that hurts, it's the holding on." - i feel like i'm set on the first steps towards healing and forgiving myself.


reaching:
hippy peace freaks? - oh yes. i love that quote, too!! we all need to set ourselves free, don't we?


thank you all - such a great beginning to this thread:)

zig