I told w about it last night and she became very agitated, questioning "why now and not before" and this statement struck me as odd..."why couldn't you have done that a year ago?" .... like it was too late. I may be reading into that a little much. Guess time will tell.
Sounds normal to me honestly.
Sounds like you are having a hard time communicating with each other. Listening is not as easy as you'd think. And you cannot argue with feelings...they just are. You can't explain them away, or say they shouldn't have them or whatever...they just are.
I don't want to sound like a broken record here, because I do recommend this a lot, but you might consider the retrovaille program if you're wife will participate and there's one close. There is an awful lot of work on communication and discussion of feelings. My wife hasn't completely bought into it, but the dialoguing technique has been a great vehicle to discuss each other's feelings and develop a better understanding of each other. I highly recommend it....but it does really work best if both partners are open to it and willing to do some work. And believe me, it is work.
