Have you gotten and read DB/DR yet? If not, do so immediately.
You certainly don't want to apply pressure...stop the "I love yous", "I miss yous" etc. I'm not sure about the care packages...on one hand I think they'd be nice (if done without the pressure), but on the other, they in themselves may be viewed as pressure. Maybe some of the folks with experience with military families can chime in.
What are the problems you mentioned? What are his complaints?
