In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Thanks Chatterbug - just to clear up what I thought DLS was saying was to picture if it was a guy putting me through all this and (i hope) hypothetically you'd feel like kicking his ass.

I was explaining about why I wouldn't do that and used the OM as an example of why I wouldn't jeapordise my future like that.

Right now though for me, I have no income until September and I owe quite a bit of money out as well. I'm looking into legal aid to help me with this, but over here the legal aid system is geared more towards women (like backing the favourite - back the woman in divorce 99 times out of a 100 you get paid out).

Worst case scenario if after D I was a financial mess, I could move in with a friend or my sister whilst I saved up - depending purely on what my financial situation would be with alimony.

Logic has superceeded emotion for me in all this now.

The custody, I wouldn't have thought would be an issue and would go for a 50 / 50 which would be fair on everyone all round. (as fair as it could be).

I don't know how alimony works in the states, but i'm guessing it's a percentage of your wages.

So much to look into on this - I will try and get some free advice ASAP, before I weigh up how to go about this.

Thanks for checking in and giving us good advice

Bill