I'll listen to what she says and watch the clock ticking down if it's only to do with L talk. If it IS L talk then my tame pitbull will be asked to join in the party. Fair IS fair and the trigger with the L was firmly pulled by the W.
Let me try again... Now that she has pulled the trigger with the hiring of a lawyer, you do the same... Since you pay these people to represent you, they do the talking, not her talking, and you listening. If she wants to discuss getting back/staying together you need to find a place to meet that is neutral ground. If all she wants to do is blather about, tell her to have her lawyer contact yours (that is what they are for).
From what I gather she is at her Mother's house? I say, let her stay there. She wants to "move on," she can start over there. (By saying this I am assuming the house is in your name, otherwise check with your lawyer) You can send her a note/text/email stating that you will have her stuff packed and put to the side and she can pick it up on such and such date, at such and such time. She has too much control over this situation and it is high time that you took that back.
I did this with my ex, and while I hated the way it made me feel, I knew it was the right thing to do... He thought I was bluffing and called my bluff by not showing... I sold/gave away/trashed everything that was his, down to the underwear he left behind. (trashed those lol) I kept one single item and that was a framed American flag, that was flown over the White House. It was a gift he received when he retired and I put it away for the boys in case one of them wanted it later on in life.
Was he mad? Absolutely...
Do I care? Not in the least...
I didn't do it to endear myself to him, I did it to take back my life, I did it because I said I was going to do it, I did it to show myself that I had the strength to follow through with what I said, I did it to face that fear of "what if he gets mad," and I did it because I was sick of the clutter. By having that stuff sit there, he still had some form of control, I in turn needed to gain that control back.
Just something to think about.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
