Hello Daddy, Thank you for posting. Yes, I have been told by many people that I am a planner which is right on, and which was instilled in me by both my military background(22 years in Marine Corps), and dysfunctional family background. I am much more aware of this over the last year, and have taken steps to modify the tendency to overplan, which can be detrimental to any relationship.
At first, I believe my tendency toward planning and stability was a real turn on for my s, since she came out of a dysfunctional family and had had many unstable relationships in her life. As the years went by though, I believe she lost herself, and we became more like affectionate roommates than lovers. I fully share in this responsibility, and like many on this board, wish I had been given the opportunity to be smacked on the head and learn from mistakes made, and to make a go at it with my sp in a new relationship.
I think she really started to entertain the thought of leaving right around the time that I turned 49, which would have been 2009. I still dont believe she was entirely ready to pull the plug until june of last year, it could have gone either way.
Thanks for asking
I figured it was when you where nearing 50. Sounds about right. It's ok to plan. You have to leave some slack in there for spontenaity.
She may have thought you where starting to get "old", and wanted to catch up on what she missed out on. Understanding the real reasons if it was one is valueable, because you know what your dealing with.
