I have been loitering around this site for a few months. Like others on this board I thought my marriage would be restored before I needed to seek advice. That has not been the case.
My husband and I have been married for eleven years. We have four gorgeous children, s9, d6, d3, d9months. We have not had an amicable relationship for the last twelve months, or since I was pregnant with our last child. My husband claims I am very cold during my pregnancies and I feel my husband is very unsupportive during my pregnancies. This last pregnancy did not go well and my husband and I were quite distant. I was punishing him for various indiscretions and he was being an immature person and giving me no support whatsoever. We do live in an expat environment where that behavior is virtually encouraged. My fourth child was born in October and my husband moved out in February after an explosive fight.
My husband has since, or before, embarked on a relationship with a teacher from my children's school. This teacher taught my daughter last year and was aware I was pregnant.
My husband lied and denied this relationship for several months and only when presented with concrete proof from me did he admit to it on April 30. Until then he told me I was unstable and needed to be committed to a psych ward because I was searching for things that were not here. Only last year my husband commented unfavorably on this woman's appearance and figure. Now he is happier than he ever was with me!
I do not believe in divorce. I have an amazing family that my husband always loved being a part of. My husband comes from a broken, confused home. My family has always embraced him and loved him. He has now defended all of us from Facebook. This is so juvenile.I do not know if I can even be friends with my husband as I feel his relationship with the teacher is a betrayal of me and the children. It is so selfish. my children should feel safe and secure at their school, one confronted by their home situation.
Is my marriage worth it or a. I better to get the children out o this situation while my husband goes through his thing?
