She also says we need to talk and leave the lawyers out of this.
Mac,
I just wanted to chime in and say DO NOT DO THIS. Look, we all fight like hell -- in different ways -- to save our marriages, but once things do "go legal," you have to treat it as the adversarial transaction that it is. There's a reason that they put that little "v" between the names of the parties in our judicial system, Mac, and that is because it is adversarial by design.
No one ever went to their death-bed saying ANY of these:
1. I wish I had spent more time at the office.
2. I wish I had taken less risk in my life.
3. I wish I had been more agreeable in my divorce proceding.
