JKS, Thanks for your words of encouragement. They mean a lot. My W filed but told me she hasn't done anything to serve me yet. I think it has something to do with them still not knowing for sure if this is what they want. When all of this first happened W & I lived together for 3 months without her getting her own bank acct, moving out or filing. I really do think they are not sure plus it probably is nice to have the security of the spouse still there while they get a little "freedom" to what they please. I agree it's not fair to the LBS but it also gives us hope that maybe they do want us. I don't know, just some thoughts. I do know that we need to be happy too.
Let her have freedom. Maybe you have "freedom" too. Peace of mind will be without her in your head. When you start doing some of the things they are doing it reduces the importance of it. They get very angry too and will want to show they still possess you.
