Just heard that our retrov schedule got flipped a few weeks....instead of conflict resolution, we're doing intimacy and sex. Neither of us see that as a big issue for us...but I think we'll learn some things regardless. That means conflict resolution moves two weeks out, and we have a conflict (another wedding). Dang it...so probably the best two post sessions for us (forgiveness/trust and conflict resolution) will have to be made up in Oct/Nov timeframe.
One thing about the forgiveness session was mentioned via email that really stuck out to me. It said that we have a hard time forgiving people sometimes when their apology or request for forgiveness is not done in our preferred manner. W has really struggled forgiving me, and I think this may be part of the deal. I have said "sorry" for a lot of stuff (so much that eventually I said "I'm not apologizing for the same stuff over and over"), but I don't know that I've asked for forgiveness. I may initiate this at some point, should the opportunity arise.
W just blew out of here going 100mph....gave me a little insight on the 90 mins she was otp. She actually talked to 3 separate people, a GF, OM, and someone from her office regarding the deal she's working. I assumed it was a single person, and again, I hate that I make any assumptions! She said she'd be home early, but might have to go back out for a meeting on this deal she's working. I said "as a reminder, we have retrov on Sat and I'd like to..." She interjected "finish our homework...ok, this is Thur, got it."
No time for me in the AM bothers me, but now I understand that my LL is quality time and seeing her spend time with others, with none left for me, stings. Understanding the how and why I feel really helps hold negativity at bay.
