A Huddle of Turtles

[strongerthanever]

Zig,

I don't think we have ever communicated, but I have kept up with you. I have done a tremendous amount of introspection the past few days, and forgivness, unconditional love and selflesness have been my 3 areas of growth/awareness.

Our sitchs could not be more opposite, but I believe lessons of the heart are always the same.

For me, forgiving meant letting go of the victim role, something I felt justified in claiming, like it was a birth right. So much so that it seemed like back stepping to love and give when I really NEEDED.

You know how we remind each other that we can decide to leave/give up when ever we want, and how it awlays makes things easier to deal with?

Not forgiving/pain/anger is the same concept really. We can let go of that any time we want (or are ready). I have discovered that just like my ability to remain in my sitch, I also have the ability to love and forgive-because it is a choice that I can make, independant of what someone else may do or say.

I also think that for everyone here, the act of forgiving our partners also means forgiving ourselves (for whatever we regret, for what we didnt do, or to forgive and give ourselves permission to do what is best for us).

Not sure if my perspective helps, but at least its another perspective