more turtles by my side...

[needgrace]

hi starsky, i love to read your posts, i learn a lot from them... but i must ask how exactly you think what zig is doing is a bad example? i am truly confused about that.. from what i see, she has worked hard at keeping S out of the situation w/ H... she had H leave the home...she has been friendly but detached.. she is trying to save her M to his F...

I may be a "cheerleader" of zig's, that is true, i adore her... but still i am trying to look at this as objectively as i can and with all due respect, i don't get it. i understand your perspective on boundaries and think you raise very good points on what is so so confusing about the differing advice offered by the coaches..and i know you have found what worked in your sitch and really want to help others help their Ms..

but i don't see how she is doing anything that sets a bad example for her S. and knowing zig, that is the LAST thing she would want to do..so Starsky if you would elaborate we can either agree to all disagree... or maybe some or all of us may change our thoughts.... and it seems a sad way to end what seemed to have begun as such a fruitful discussion.