My husband and I separated several months ago after I pursued getting outside help for the problems we were having. He is currently in the military serving in a combat zone, and indicated just before he left that he will divorce me upon his return from war. I was absolutely the pursuer in the relationship, and have backed off from asking him to work things out with me. I have no way of knowing his mindset because he has not emailed or written to me. There has been a positive change in his behavior in that he deposited money into our joint account after months of not doing so.
Since the time he left, I have refrained from telling him I love him. Last night, I caved and sent him an email telling him I am praying for him and that I love and miss him. I have also sent him a couple of care packages, which he won't receive for possibly a few weeks. I am wondering if I should back off again, if this is too much or if it is right to show support while he is in combat. I know the soldiers with him are receiving mail from their wives. I also know those soldiers are making an effort to communicate with their spouses and my husband is not.
How do I successfully do a 180 without seeming like I have emotionally abandoned my husband during this crucial time in his life?
