That’s a great question MrBond. Yes and no, I understand that doesn’t necessarily answer your question. It’s a thought provoking question so a yes or no answer just doesn’t cut it and I also view it several ways.
Yes, because I know that I don’t have a choice if I want the opportunity to R. I’ve built up some resentment toward W because I thought it was “all about money”. What I am starting (or trying) to understand is that it’s having that stability, that feeling of being “safe”, that feeling of security and everything that comes with it. In addition, our financial instability has made W feel that I am very irresponsibility.
Until I came to this forum I had this simplistic mindset that “it’s only about money”. She will only be with me if I made more money. I still wonder if that might be a safe assessment.
An acquaintance asked me the other day. “Well, that must make you wonder if she’d be there for you if you had a stroke and you ended up spending your days with nothing but drool coming out of your mouth”. I know it’s not productive to view it from that standpoint.
If I understand what you’re saying, W and I need to be in agreement on where things broke down if R is ever going to be an option? What’s your view regarding my money assessment? What’s your take on this?
