"The first is that over the last two weeks she has taken to accusing me of only seeing her as a sex object."
She's relating this to your porn addiction. She thinks that because you watch porn, that's the way you see her as an object. Women don't believe that men can separate the two sometimes. That's why she's equating you with her former abusive partners.
In that case, you have to put your foot down to tell her that you are not like the abusive men in her past and that while you did view porn, you respect her and the addiction has nothing to do with anything she's done.
"but I do wish she would recognize that I am trying to do things to make amends."
Ain't going to happen. Or at least any time soon. Do the things because you want to do them with no expectations of anything in return.
"Struggling with feeling of being unappreciated is one of the things on my side of the marriage that led to problems to begin with."
That's why you GAL to get the feeling of being appreciated back beause your W isn't giving it to y0ou right now.
How old are you and your W now?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
