Ultramarathon finish line or hallucinations?

[jbnati]

You're right, it's a coparenting issue, and you need not to fear conversations with the mother of your child, even if she gets mad. You need to learn how to communicate through that and not let it affect you, because you need to parent your child with her.

I can tell the fear is gone. After all, what's she going to now, D me? I feel like I have this new freedom to speak my mind and bring up the hard issues. She is going to have to deal with them one way or the other.

But you might need to bring up such hypothetical situations as if they very well could occur, so she has an objective view of the issue as it affects her son.

Actually been there, done that. Awhile back, I asked her how she would feel if when she came to pick S, I had OW there. She said it wouldn't bother her at all. Yeah, right. Her line of thinking is that we're not together.

Right now she's looking at it as you trying to control her love life.

I believe you're spot on with this one. It's a coparenting issue to me and to her it's me trying to control her. There's a line between those two situations, but I've crossed that line now because of where I'm at.