Ultramarathon finish line or hallucinations?

[adinva]

You're right, it's a coparenting issue, and you need not to fear conversations with the mother of your child, even if she gets mad. You need to learn how to communicate through that and not let it affect you, because you need to parent your child with her.

I know she's assuming you won't. You obviously have high standards and morals. But you might need to bring up such hypothetical situations as if they very well could occur, so she has an objective view of the issue as it affects her son. Right now she's looking at it as you trying to control her love life. If it's about YOUR love life maybe she'll see it differently.

I recently talked with my H about what we should do with our house and where our kids will live. I'm trying not to make any assumptions about whether the kids and I stay in the house. H's standpoint is that he wants to continue owning half of it after D. If you ask me right now, I don't expect to date anyone at all until my kids are grown; I'll be focused on them and will be very busy, and am not in a hurry to get back in a relationship. But I can't tell the future, and for the sake of argument I want us to set up an arrangement where the co-owner of my house doesn't feel like he can dictate who I can have over or move in. So I brought it up as a hypothetical to plan around.