Ok. So I screwed up a little last night. After our son was asleep I went up to her(our) room and asked to talk for a few minutes. I just wanted to ask how her day went and if there was anything going on the rest of the week. No M talk or anything like that. She seemed annoyed and I kept it short
I did better today. She sent me a small email about the cell phone bill which I took care of and responded to. Kept it short
Then I emailed her to let her know I was going out to ride my Mtn bike. The only reason I did is because I am a FIRM believer in telling someone where you are going before you go out to the woods for anyhthing
I am having so much trouble detaching. When I got home from riding yesterday evening, her and my son were playing a board game. Our son started right in wanting me to play and u could hear my wife say--no, daddy's tired. Let him rest. Etc. I went ahead and joined the game and was a little upset. How's it get place to tell our son I don't want to or can't play a game.
I also noticed she wasn't wearing her wedding rings. She was wearing them when she got home. She knows how much this really angers me. I was proud if myself. I didn't say a word
Stop pursuing her. Stop asking how her day went. It's suffocating her with your feelings.
Find someone else to tell your whereabouts in the woods. Leave her a note about your return.
When she put words in your mouth about needing rest you should have said: "W, please don't mind read me. I'm delighted to play with our son."
What's up with the cell phone bill?
Let go of the wedding rings issue. She has spoken and acted on that. Let her go and use this "trial" period you accepted to lead yourself and your son.
Your son is watching you and your actions.
Be a Rock Dad.
Give your wife what she wants. A taste of life without you smothering her.
Be friendly and cordial but not a friend. Be respectful but firm with your boundaries.
She put a time limit on the "end" of your marriage and you agreed to it. Use that time wisely now.
