Originally Posted By: Navyguy
Thanks for the posts everyone. Still just trying to be W's friend here.

EE starts tomorrow. I will try to post about it while I'm there, but I might not be able to...it is a busy weekend.

Navy, I'd bet A LOT of money that

You will NOT be able to post about EE during the weekend b/c you'll be BUSY and processing, and they'll probably ask you not to post until it's over.

Remember, there is a process and structure to it.

I'm happy for you.

Looking forward to what you have to say when the Essential Experience workshop is all said and done - but in a way, it's really when your life of clarity and exercising choice, truly begins.

My guess is you'll be VERY tired on Monday...If you can, take that day off- or at least expect a LATE morning, b/c it's truly exhausting.

Wish I'd told you that before...sorry!


I hadn't told W why I was going to Philly this weekend, but she asked last night, so I showed her a little bit about EE...she seemed somewhat interested in it.


well, ^^^ that's "somewhat" nice. EE Is for YOU of course. Would she benefit by going? Oh yeah, sure...but it means a lot of mirror looking, And NO blaming AND a lot of digging deep...so...

OTOH, once she sees your changes, your inner radiance, she'll want it.

But will she do what it takes to get that? Who knows?

Guess what? NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY...she lives her life and YOU live YOURS....

Its just that now you are doing it more openly/overtly. And You will do what it takes to make YOUR LIFE HAPPY.


Had an ok night last night. W asked me how I was holding up, so I was honest with her - crappy. She's feeling about the same as me. We had a positive talk about some pretty deep feelings. Again, W brought up her past. I think she may be starting to draw the link between her past and our problems...but I could be wrong.


you keep mind reading and, let's admit it, HOPING for a breakthrough from her, and sort of seeing one when she makes the most blindingly obvious "insights" and takes 3 ounces of responsibility for how she feels....

Yet note that once she does that

"Again, w brought up her past"..
.she always reverts back to NOT having to own her life and somehow making it about you.

What I'm saying is that

if and when she's clearly feeling a certain way, a way that means good news for you,

you will know. No guessing will be needed.

Our first appt. with the C to start working out how we're going to do the S is next Tuesday.

Hopefully by then I'll be a changed man. smile



you will be. Do the work, don't withhold. I'm sending you all my support.

You'll be in good hands. They know what they are doing. Trust it. Trust you.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
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