To justify what she did, the W built up some huge walls. Hopefully my path will break down those walls so my W can see what she is missing before it is too late and I move on.
My greatest fear is that she will only see me as a friend from here on out. A day where she gets so comfortable in friendship that she has no problem talking about her wanting to date other people because she no longer sees me that way. This will of course kill the friendship as I will need to distance myself.
Your feelings and fear is not consistent with your words (and lack of action) of moving forward.
If you truly want her to follow, you need to lead and stop worrying about her thoughts and stop mind reading her.
You already started taking care of yourself physically and financially. It's time to continue that path and take care of yourself emotionally and mentally.
Stop hovering around her and act according to your words.
Let her go.
"W, being friends with you does not work for me right now. You fired me as your husband. I choose not to be friends with someone who disrespected me that way. Maintaining that status quo is not healthy for me."
Then go to dinner with your kids without inviting her.
