Not Sure What I am Dealing With

[KyJoe]

I have been busy working on GAL and detachment. I am going to more work and social functions than I used to, am trying to get a couple of buddies to start doing something a few nights per month, am recommitting to my workout regiment

I am trying very carefully to straddle the point of healthy detachment and going dark, It is not time to go dark yet, she is still in the house and she has not mentioned divorce lately (a few years ago she told me she was leaving, I used the DB techniques to turn that around).

Her complaints: Does not feel heard and does not feel safe to bring up her feelings. She is right about that, I tend to listen for a little while, then I call BS on the parts I do not agree with especially when it involves what kind of a person she believes me to be. I am working toward learning how to fog so I can stay in the conversation without making either of us angry. I am not very good at it yet, it tends to sound a little sarcastic.

Oh yeah, she feels I am responsible for all of our marital problems.