Its much easier to live the lie and take the low road. Any attempt to re-unite with a former spouse would be an admission of wrong doing. Its not human nature to admit wrong, therefore its much easier to make the LBS into the bad persona and stick to that storyline.
Well it takes two to reconcile and the LBS has to be willing to accept the MLC'er and from what I seem to read that is not always the way that works.
M Go Blue was not willing to accept a reconnection from his MLC'er, Snodderly has said the same thing.
Granted they are broken but it does seem like the LBS gets to make the last call.
Braveheart if you have not gotten that opportunity yet then maybe you are right, they are stuck in the tunnel.
1000 ships has very wise words. Do you agree Braveheart with anything she said?
If the average MLC is 7 years then there will be ones that are shorter and ones that are longer. And from a quote from a STANDER I know is that "IF SPEED is your GOAL you will fail."
Mirage/Spirit thanks for your perspective.
Originally Posted By: Spirit
I would not want a relationship with someone stuck in the tunnel. If they don't make it through the chances of a mature, adult relationship are minimal.
I absolutely agree with this and many reconnection attempts are made while they are still within the MLC. So the LBS really needs to be emotionally strong to make it work.
