I agree with what you say, the supplicating/rescuing/fixing is a turn-off, even for me. I do not like being like this.
The fathering on the other hand, what can I do about it? They are my kids, and how am I supposed to detach from them? This is the only thing I tend to disagree a bit with.
What is LM?, I could not find it on the abbreviations. Now, It is also my fear that I am being used and being kept as "plan B". I do want to start detaching and feel good about it, I just need to find out how. Any advice?
Regarding the unsafe sex. I am 100% with your toughts, and like I said, I want to stop this all at once. Once again, any advice how I should start detaching.