I think the supplicating/rescuing/fixing -- even "fathering" behavior . . . the stuff that I highlighted . . . is a turn-off to her.
And in a pure DB sense, it's "pursuing," which is a big DB no-no.
She's going to just use sex to keep you as her "Plan B" is my fear for you. Unlike some others on the forum who are able to detach and just use the LM as a way to enjoy themselves, with no expectations, I don't get the sense that you can do that, and -- more importnatly -- YOU don't feel good about it afterward.
And to not use a condom is just plain DANGEROUS on your part, but I'll stop my preaching there. I'm sure your doctor wouldn't tell you anything different.
