Oh and as for the potential for your XW being in an abusive relationship, you going to jail to defend her "honor" would do nothing to bring her back, I'm sure. It would only cause havoc in your life. Ask yourself if you feel compelled to find out about anything in that regard and to act on it simply because you're searching for another way to prove to her that she should be with you. If that's the case, that's not a legitimate rationalization for already considering stepping into a situation that is not your business. She made her bed, Tad.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying