Yes Sir I do see the pattern, and that is the reason I wrote it, so you guys can give me an insight on how I can stop this behavior on my part without being rude.
Now, I do agree with you on using protection. I haven't, but what really want to do is stop having sex wiht W. That would be only if we fixed our marriage, that is my goal.
Now, on Mr. Bond question, if I am sure she is still seen this other man. Like I told you, she spends most of the nights out the house, I know that thru my 13 yrs old. I want to point out that I do not ask him anything or involve him on this situation. Still, he tells me stuff like: "When my mom comes back in the morning" or "in the mornings when I see mom". That is how I know she is with OM.
Now, the only time she has talk to me about this other guy, she said that he is "so attentive with me". That is it, I do not know this guy so I really do no know how he is. Good things she has said about me are: "You are the only person that really loves me", With all this happening between us, it makes me realize that you really care for me" "Wow, you look really good now that you are going to the gym", and the one I rellay believe is the most important: "There is no one I can call the father of my kids, but you". On this last one she really means it.
Now, with these comments and the comments that she is afraid of our relationship, really has me going on in circles.