I was going down this track too and I'm happy for all the folks that gave me a new perspective and helped me pull back from that cliff just a few days ago. From everything I'm hearing, what I tell myself is information gathering and setting up rules for a separation, so I have a sense of solid ground under my feet can be see as (and probably is,okay, okay, IS) controlling behavior.
I'm trying to stop that.
I'm new to all of this so I don't have any answers for you on how to reply to your Ws questions. I know you read my thread and found good advice in there.
MrBond said here to treat your W like a casual acquaintance and you replied with 3 options. Maybe you answered your own question. It's nice she wants to know but it's really none of her business right now. Kind of like a neighbor asking you those questions, either you are vague in you answer or you don't answer at all, change the subject, A LA "how about those mets!".
My 2 cents, for the vets out there please correct me if I'm wrong.
lillystillinlove M:43 H:49 T:17 M:16 S:6 Bomb: 1/27/12 EA+ with close married family friend / ILYBINILWY H moved out 7/27/12 H is Extremely angry, stressed and unable to forgive
