STBXH had said to me awhile back that he never cheated on me, except the few times he did
LOL. Sorry, this statement just made me laugh out loud. He never cheated on you - except when he did.
Kinda sounds like my ex. To tell the truth, I've wondered lately whether there might have been a lot more cheating going on than what I knew about. I don't actually think so - he wasn't that good a liar. But I do suspect that there was more flirting and fantasizing going on over the years than I ever suspected.
And a couple of suspicious incidents look very different to me now than they did at the time. Like the guy friend who "broke up" with us as a couple because he thought my ex had come on to his wife. Ex denied it vigorously and since I knew the wife wasn't really his type, I bought ex's explanation and figured the guy was paranoid. Now, of course, I would love to hear exactly what my ex did!!!
