Dont have much for you, but I was at a 60 day time table a year ago. We ended up postponing the divorce, and a year later we are working on the marriage still. Don't worry too much about the timeline, there's been plenty of 11th hour miracles around here, even some post divorce recoveries. What's more important is maintaining your composure, and your sanity.
Now I'm pretty big on the whole empowerment part, especially helping guys regain their sense of control in their lives. Just in case your wondering what my angle is.
For now my best recommendation is to be the best man you can be. Are you working out? Any hobbies to keep you busy? I hope you haven't let your personal appearance go to crap; still dress well?
I know the whole job part is hard, but the ability to provide stability is pretty key IMHO.
As for the anger, you have taken responsibility for it. Good, now it's time to show your W.
Show NOT tell. In these situations it's best to Show your W your actions not tell her. Let's just say you are a sloppy dresser, don't tell her your changing your wardrobe just buy the stuff and wear it. Don't even bring attention to it, let her comment on it not you.
This should be your basic philosophy.
Be the man you want to be, let people know through your actions, and actions alone.
