The latest "discussion" was fueled by my suggestion that we go to Indiana to see his 41 year old sister who just gave birth last month after a very high risk pregnancy. I know that is important to him and he has wanted to make this happen as well, so I don't feel like it was totally my idea. I arranged another personal event of my own to clear this weekend.
We had what seemed to be a good talk about it one night and the next night he was angry and upset and said it feels "weird" to be planning a trip for the four of us to take together. There was a 2nd "discussion" a few nights later..I am sure he does not want me to go along, but he has not directly said "You are not going along." That could be a hard one to explain to the kids, since they both know I have said in the recent past that I want to go meet the baby.
I want to have a family weekend together, 1) because I want to see the baby and 2) it will give me another opportunity for me to demonstrate how I am a different and better person. I have been negative around his family at times because I do find them quite frustrating. However, I have learned to table my frustrations and roll with things more easily. I think about what would happen if I were to just get in the car anyway.
M:39 H:39 S/15, S/11 (both adopted in 2004, my step-nephews, now our kids) M10, T13 Multiple bombs. Latest one 5/4/12, our 10th anniversary. Still living together and sharing a bed up until 7/18/12.
