Thanks for giving us some insight into the male mentality - always helpful!
What you said about men and their friends really hit home with me. Sometimes it helps to look at the situation out of the context of the M to get a better idea of the messed up mind frame of the MCLer.
I have watched my H do the same exact thing to his best friend as he has done to me. My H slowly distanced himself from his best friend, then turned around and blamed it on his friend! This is a guy he has been friends with since high school. Even as recently as last summer, they spent lots of time together and our families also.
Now, my H avoids him at all costs. But of course it is the friends fault.
My H sticks close to 2 friends who are not of the highest moral quality. He says he wants to be around people that make him feel good about himself. I'm sure they do, because they won't question his choices. They probably encourage him to do what makes him happy. Of course I'm speculating...
Meanwhile, I think his BF would question him because that's what good friends do! They look out for you, not just kiss your a$$ to make you happy.
I guess my point is that MLC does damage to all of the people closest to that person, not just the spouse. It is sad. No matter what happens to my M, I hope that my H will someday be able to reconcile with his friend. He's going to need a true friend in his life.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
