As far as his affair being related to his brain injury and war issues, he won't come out and 100 percent talk about it with his military doctors because adultery is a punishable offense in the USMJ code. It can supposedly result in a drop in pay, rank and actually being discharged dishonorably from the military, although I doubt the act can carry that much damage. It usually depends on the chain of command. I think my husband would be able to be honest with his military doctors, as this is pretty common with soldiers and injured soldiers. Especially those who are unable to form emotional relationships after their war injuries. On a side note, I feel for a girl who is going through something similiar. Her husband was flown from Afghanistan because he was injured in a fire fight, and her husband has a girlfriend and I would hate to be faced with that stuff, my heart really goes out to her.
My husband is in the process of medically retiring from the military because of his brain injuries and is 90 percent VA disabled, which means he will require treatment for his injuries, head included, for the rest of his life. He tells me he cannot wait to be honest with someone about how much he hates his life, the affair ,etc. But he is the only one who has the power to change it, I cannot fight his battles for him. I think its just an excuse, to not talk to his doctors about it, because I rarely see him wanting to be honest with himself about this crap.
On a side note, I am excited about the nursing program, eventually, hoping I can fit my life into going. I did just apply for two new jobs today, that would be an increase in salary and I am excited about the potential for being considered. Only time will tell if I am considered. I do love my job, but my boss can be demanding and overwhelming at times, so I would love to have a new job to focus my energy on and succeed at during this time.
I do love Texas so far, but haven't decided if I will stay here if we divorce, I think it would be too painful. Although Texas is a big state lol.
M-28 H-28 M-9 1/2 years T- 12 years PA- 01/02/12 (still going on)
