I would have loved the opportunity to have been able to recognize faults from both sides and worked harder within our R to make it work for both of us. And a lot of what DB'ing is about is being willing to do the work ALONE to pull your M back together. I'm losing that will to do it alone anymore.
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But I do see the importance of GAL. I have felt the difference in me when I'm out there doing these things.
JKS - do you not see the connection between "doing the work" and "GAL"? A lot of the work you do can be accomplished by your GAL activities. Finding yourself and your happiness is all part of the "work". Making yourself attractive to the rest of the world is part of the "work". Healing from the pain and learning from it is all part of the "work".
I posted this on my thread the other day and want to re-post it on yours because I think it is so key to getting on with things and regaining your own sense of value. The pastor in my church covered this during last Sunday's service:
Discern the lie - About your worth - About your failures - About your purpose
Trust the truth - About your worth - About your failures - About your purpose
See if you can wrap your mind around this and find your "truth".
(((JKS)))
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
