TVS, I remember reading in your past posts that things have improved a little with your H. Still 6 months without any affection is a long time. I have felt rejected every day for 3 months, that is bad enough. Still no affection from my H but at least a little bit of attention now.
Do you try asking him to go anywhere? DB coach suggested to try something non-threatening, with no expectations, if he doesn't want to go, do it anyway. Maybe... "i'm going to the park with the boys. Do you want to come?".
I liked what you said about your H losing YOU..what a loss it would be. It would not be the first time a man let his wife slip through his fingers then lived to regret it for the rest of his life. I tell myself that too sometimes. Stupid aliens!! Sorry, sorry not in the right spirit but it helps to vent.
RH..I liked your story...for the life of me though I can't understand why our men are looking for something more exciting, then when you give it to them, they balk. I also can't understand why my H doesn't want the responsibility of anybody or any thing any more, but he is still here paying bills, working himself to death and doing the same things he always has done, with no intention of going anywhere. He may as well be having a relationship with me too. Who knows? but they are screwed up in the head!
SL..I appreciate your advice, I hope it helps the others...unfortunately, I am in Australia and our system is quite different here. Also its well-known how Ozzie males are. Their mates are there to validate their stupid behaviour, not warn them against it, as well as being tough and not showing any emotion, they prop each other up. (That is generalising of course, not all are like it).
Keep posting, its something to look forward to, to hear from you all.
