First off you have to calm down. In order for her to regain her trust in you, it will take awhile.

Read Divorce Remedy immediately. This will help make sense of what your W is doing.

Now what is your marriage history? Give us as much detail as possible. Besides the not paying her attention, what other issues were wrong in the M?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER