Reading your post it's obvious that your wife is just as confused as you ( a good thing I would argue ) however you MUST Keep up with the DB principles and GAL. She IS noticing these changes in you, but you MUST have patience.
Your sitch didn't happen overnight and the remedy will not come about overnight.
FF999
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11