Jannie, Sorry you find yourself here, but there is much knowledge to be gained and plenty of support here.
I would say you need to leave him alone until he contacts you. Surely your son can call him without you having to talk to him. I certainly would let him do that, even if you have to dial it for him, but I wouldnt speak to him unless during the conversation with your son he asks to speak to you.
Its hard to have no contact, and very frustrating wondering how someone you've been with so long can just all at once pretend you don't exist, but contacting him is pursuing and pursuing is bad.
The hardest thing to do is do nothing, but thats what your faced with at this time. But if you do contact him, please don't try to tap into his heart by telling him how much his son misses him.
I failed early on and tried to talk about our relationship, and I would venture to guess that most do fail in the aspect of trying to talk to their spouse, but it will only cause you to beat yourself up, or worse yet end up heart b/c he will most likely be cold and distant.
Do yourself a favor and wait....how long? Until he contacts you would be my answer.
