Denver and GH, both awesome posts. There is so much to be learned in all of that. I can identify so much with what went on in your situations. I dont know if my wife is EA/PA or nothing, and at this point im not really concerned about it, but I am concerned about giving the time and space needed to overcome whatever it is she needs to overcome so that hopefully one day we can work this out.
Jack: Great advice, unfortunately i've been that passive agressive guy in the past. Although there are triggers and it will happen, the worse thing i ever did was fake triggers to get reassurance. I held her seeing someone over her head for way too long even though she did everything i asked..changed numbers, sent back gifts, changed jobs and we moved.
I know at least part of why its so hard for her to trust me now is because of how I acted then. Im looking for chance #2 at DB and its harder this time b/c i/we both didnt "fix" it the first time, just put a bandaid on it.
Denver: Don't stop working on it....a year from now when things are great keep working toward better. Complacency bit me on the @ss and im paying now, but still not giving up.
