One thing I forgot to mention - your kids are older and at the end of the day, whatever your W does will end up affecting her R with them. They will make up their own minds about this anyways. You cannot do anything about it.
You know where you stand on the issue and maybe some day you will be able to express how you feel to your kids or maybe you won't (and should not?). IDK, but I believe that kids are smart. Even if you don't express it outwardly, they will sooner or later see how things happened and how each of you felt and behaved about this whole issue.
Best of luck.
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
