BUT, if she engages him in conversation or encourages that contact in any way, I will not accept it. That's just my line at this point. So far, W is good with that and has taken the necessary steps to make me feel comfortable. AND, she has done this stuff, such as contacting her boss about not taking gigs with the OM, without me pressuring her to do so. I merely told her how I felt and she did what she felt was right.
I do not think you are going to have to worry about that. I understand the fear, but she is saying AND more importantly showing you that this is highly unlikely. One of the top ten cool things my wife did, was when she confided in me what a loser/stalker the OM had been. : ) I think your wife sees it now.
I absolutely 100% agree with Harrier about not holding it over her head either.
Passive Agressives have this problem (generally speaking), they can say they forgive all the live long day, but they'll bring it up in an argument or a fight...
Don't be that guy.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
