Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

adinva, Thank you, thank you, thank you, that seems to be exactly what I'm doing, trying to reason with my H to help him understand what was going on, the why. In my mind it seems that should be enough. It obviously not.

Unless I am over the top angry about this situation and not thinking straight I've started trying to find a similar situation in our past that he went through with me. It has been helping me balance thing in my mind and calm the frustrations. The hard part for me is doing it in when we are talking in MC. I get so wrapped up in my own BS that I can see the other side and I escalate.

This forum has help so far because it gives me a place to go and get feedback. I'm glad that I waited to make a decision on sending a response to his email until after I heard back from you guys. H and I having a conversation last night about his job and all the additional stress he's under helped too. (Prior to this job he worked for himself, now he has what he was doing before getting this job and this new job). It's easy for me to forget what he is going through.

Looking back on all the excuse I had to not ML seem almost petty compared to what I'm going through now.

A clean slate would be nice.