Some people just don't seem to listen, they hear you but don't truly listen.
Another brief update. The landscapers came back today to do the heavy duty cleanup that was long overdue, way back to when STBX still lived here. Although he keeps accusing me of letting it go, he never did much when he was here either. It is just another tactic.
So to cover my butt, I sent him pictures of the yard after it was finished to show that his investment is maintained (he requested and I saw no harm)
I jokingly mentioned getting excited to downsize eventually to not have to deal with this maintenance.
He responded: I am sure it will and I understand about downsizing for you. I appreciate the pictures very much.
To be honest, because it feels safe communicating these days, I really just wanted to help so it’s not overwhelming to you. I know it doesn’t always come off this way but I am trying to help this transition anyway possible. I didn’t mean any harm offering or asking the boys, but I get your point too.
I hope you can believe that.
My response came much easier and seems to feel so much more natural these days, which is so nice
No thanks, I can handle it. I just don't choose to handle it for the long term. I have other ideas and priorities for my life and this is all temporary for me. It is not what I want. I appreciate the offer but I really don't need any help. We are transitioning ok, you need to continue to focus on your transition. I am actually doing quite well, and here for the boys if they struggle in transition. We can each do that for them if we are with them.
I can bide my time until I can downsize, there are plenty of other areas to focus on in the meantime, its not a huge deal
