As you know, for many husbands going to a T or taking Ads is considered a sign of weakness or failure. And these days it takes some planning, navigating the health care system and scheduling weeks (or even months) in advance. Not to stereotype, but these things would probably be especially hard for a husband in a MLC who isn't thinking right.
Can I suggest a few things that might help husbands at least consider it as a possibility? Not saying that's what they all need, of course.
Having a good group of male friends helps - we call each other on our crap but also support one another. Since my troubles I have gone out of my way to notice other men who are struggling, listen, and if they want to hear about it I'll be honest about my brief time in T and on ADs.
If their company has an employee assistance program that helps - because it's designed to be confidential and (sometimes, initially) free. It was dumb but I wouldn't have started with the T if I had to draw the funds from the family checking account. (Even though I'm quite sure my wife would have thrown the money at me to get me to go!)
And one more. When starting with a T I think it's very important to state why you are there, what's your goal. If the goal is to work on a M or be a better H and father, they need to say that up front. Different Ts have different strengths, and most will be happy to suggest a colleague if their skills and views don't match up.
Oh, and be aware that some Ts can't perscribe ADs and, thus, won't bring that up. Just good to know.
