I read Denver’s thread. What a great success story, I needed it. It’s interesting because a friend of mine that I have a lot of respect for told me last night “The cards are stacked against most people when it comes to reconciliation”. Ouch! that stung. While it was difficult to hear from him, I understood. I think he mentioned this for two reasons. Number one, it’s true. Number two, he doesn’t want me to have unrealistic expectations. In other words, he doesn’t want me to get hurt even further if we don’t reconcile.
Ok, while on this rollercoaster I have LEARNED A TON but in my book, the learning’s just begun! My consensus so far- Time and time again I see a common and consistent theme with other people’s sitch’s, including Denver’s.
The LBS MUST MOVE ON AND COME TO TERMS THAT IT’S OVER AND ACCEPT IT. MAYBE NOT CARE ABOUT THE OUTCOME ANYMORE. MAYBE THE LBS IS FED UP, DONE, JUST FINISHED. IN FACT THIS IS WHATS NEEDED TO “MAYBE GET THE OPPORTUNITY TO WORK TOWARDS RECONSILIATION”.
Sorry, I am not yelling. I just had to do all caps because I think the above statement is extremely important. Another thing I find interesting is that a lot of people say piecing is the most difficult part. Yes, I shouldn’t put the cart before the horse but I can’t even image getting to that point right now. Just the thought of W wanting to work on our R seems nearly impossible.
I am curious what any of you think. Does what I say make sense? Would any of you agree or disagree with this?
