NO! You're mixing up irresponsible parenting with control. Your kids were home alone and they tried to get a hold of your W who was God knows where. So they tried calling you. If they were in any mortal danger, your W could be thrown in jail.
I'm not saying her behavior is ok, just that my own behavior was not what I want it to be. I assumed the worst with limited information and acted out. I could have text her something like "Hey, S17 is saying xyz and no one is picking up at the house. Do you know what's up?" Instead, I basically went on the attack. I assumed she chose to ignore my call (that is a pattern I'm used to, but it's not an excuse), instead of thinking she may not have seen it or been in a bad cell area.
I discussed with W this morning (and apologized) and she explained what was going on, both with the kids and herself. She swears that she didn't miss a call from me, and only had 1 call from the house (not that it matters). I do think she had it under control and it appears that it was S17 who created unncessary drama because he wanted to go to a friend's sooner than W had told him. I will discuss with S17 today when he gets home just so me and him are on the same page.
On the negative side, W is still not in a place where she can accept an apology and move on though....she tried multiple times to turn it into a fight, but I refused (progress!). I wasn't really apologizing for her benefit anyway, it was for me. Even if she was being disrespectful and irresponsible, I would like to problem solve without the anger and frustration seeping thru.
